Insightful tips from a language mentor, who focuses on systems rather than talent

White globe with continents in red and green and the word translate written in different languages
White globe with continents in red and green and the word translate written in different languages
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I was ten years old when my Russian language teacher told my class that we were going to learn the Russian National Anthem. Due to the tight Hungarian-Soviet relations in the 1980s, this shouldn’t have surprised us, yet we looked at each other in utter shock. Why should we learn the national anthem of another country?

However, I was beyond excited even if I wouldn’t have dared admit it.

I’ll finally get to memorize a context in a different language — I thought.

Ever since I was little I was drawn to the idea of speaking another language, although my…


And no, wealth is not it

Young couple laughing in the sun
Young couple laughing in the sun
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What would you answer if someone asked you “what would make you happy”? Your reply may vary depending on what stage you’re at in life.

You could say things like; wealth, becoming a famous Tik-Toker, or even having the latest Range Rover. But what if a research study proved to you that none of these have purposeful meaning in your life in the long run?

What if having all the commodities is still not enough to live happily ever after?

And I promise I won’t start with the “money doesn’t make you happy” cliche. Let’s not forget that we live…


An easy writing exercise to fight stress

Blond, young woman sitting on bed writing in a journal with a mug in hand
Blond, young woman sitting on bed writing in a journal with a mug in hand
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How many times have you experienced stress, trauma, or conflict in your life? Two hands wouldn’t be enough to count the negative events we have to endure during our lifetime.

Think of your daily schedule or your stressful workplace that take their toll on your mental health. And I haven’t mentioned grief or abuse where the extent of distress can lead to emotional disorders and depression.

But let’s just focus on the silly nuisances of everyday life. What was the last thing that made your blood boil? The last time you argued with…


Spoiler alert, quick fix doesn’t exist

Young naked woman covering her ears and smiling
Young naked woman covering her ears and smiling
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Most of us experience ringing in our ears at some point in our lives. Some can only hear it for seconds, however, for some of us, the noise sets deep roots and becomes hard to ignore.

So, what is tinnitus and why do some people get it?

Tinnitus or ringing in the ears is a noise that is not caused by an external source. It can manifest in many forms, like a whooshing, whistling, buzzing, humming, or as a high-pitched whistle.

According to the British Society of Audiology, an estimated 13.2% (1 in 8…


My thoughts 25 years after I left my home country

Blonde woman leaning against old car with suitcase on the roof by the sea.
Blonde woman leaning against old car with suitcase on the roof by the sea.
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Would I choose to move abroad again?

This was the question I asked myself once I hung up with my sister the other day. We’ve both lived in the UK for many years and going down memory lane it’s something we do more often lately.

Could this be age?

Or perhaps it’s the pandemic that makes traveling sound so surreal?

One thing is for sure. Once you snap the umbilical cord that connects you the safety of your family you’ll learn a thing or two.

I remember vividly my clueless…


The choice to have the vaccine should still be given as an option rather than a must for the future

Covid-19 vaccine in transparent bottle, syringe, Covid-19 virus
Covid-19 vaccine in transparent bottle, syringe, Covid-19 virus
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Before you pick up a stone and get ready to throw it at me let me make a tiny disclaimer. I respect everyone’s opinion. I respect if you vote for the vaccine and I understand if you don’t. I fall into the latter category and I’ll tell you why.

I’m afraid of medications. Any kind of medication. This is why I prefer to go through the day with a banging headache rather than taking paracetamol. I only give in when I feel drained by persistent pain and lose the will to soldier on.

But, I’m not one of those holistic…


And why I have second thoughts on self-help books, which never taught me to take action

A laptop, diaries, paperclips , glasses a plant and some flowers on a desk
A laptop, diaries, paperclips , glasses a plant and some flowers on a desk
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How many times did you scroll through your social media feed only to find a well-meaning guru who gave you highly creative tips on setting and — ideally — achieving your goals? You need to design your path and make a plan accordingly — they say. Having a five-year plan and a meticulously designed bullet journal will identify your goals and the results will blow your mind. But will they? I’ve read my way through countless books that promised to change my life, but…


And I don’t mind it, because writing is more fun when the words don’t get stuck on the tip of my tongue

woman biting a pencil while sitting in front of computer in daylight
woman biting a pencil while sitting in front of computer in daylight
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Writing in your native language is hard enough. It requires skills and practice to create sentences that are a joy to read. A friend of mine once asked me if I fancied writing a blog post for the website of her garden centre.

Sure — I said. No problem, since I had a love for words in my native language (Hungarian) ever since my childhood. She needed a post about common diseases affecting roses in the early summer. Exciting, right?

The lack of relevant knowledge didn’t faze me, so I quickly got to work. I researched the topic and after…


When you can’t change your circumstances change your perspective

Foxes fighting
Foxes fighting
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We can’t really complain about workplace nuances these days as most people either work from home or don’t work at all. But if slowly going back to normal(ish) triggers an uncomfortable feeling in the pit of your stomach, then read on.

Although I now enjoy a decent relationship with my colleagues, harmony is not the word I’d use to describe every work situation I’ve been in so far. On the contrary. To reach balance it often took some serious work from my part.

And I noticed one thing. You might be working with the most wonderful people, but there will…


All it takes is one tiny step at a time

Person standing on arrow sign
Person standing on arrow sign
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What would you like to be when you grow up? It was the dreaded question I feared the most as a teenager every time I talked to adults.

Some of my cleverer friends had the privilege to decide early on what they wanted to do with their lives. I’ll be a lawyer, a teacher, a fashion designer and so on. And then there was ME. If anyone ever asked me I’d just shrug and feel overwhelmed by the number of possibilities. I wanted to be everything. When I say everything I mean the idea overflow that filled my mind day…

Zsuzsanna Agocs

Animal and coffee lover by default. Mum to a strong-willed teenage boy.

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